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The Hook Up is about love, sex and relationships. We answer your questions, learn things together, cry over heartbreak and normalise shit. Every Tuesday Dee and Pip debate your dating dilemmas and hear your cooked stories. Every Thursday it's the sex ed you never had — we call on an expert to go deep and find answers with Dee.

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TherapyJeff Answers Your Questions On Self Identity, How To Listen Not React And ‘The Spark’

We ask TikTok famous therapist Jeff Guenther what he really thinks about the therapy boom on social media - plus he answers your dating questions, from settling for the slow burn to how to listen to your partner, not react. SHOW NOTES:

Published: WedWed 4 Dec 2024 at 9:00pmwith Dee Salmin

Duration: 34 minutes 30 seconds

Is It Bad To Fantasise About Other People While In A Relationship?

Ever fantasised about someone else other than your partner? Did you feel guilty about it?

Published: MonMon 2 Dec 2024 at 9:00pmwith Dee Salmin and Pip Rasmussen

Duration: 28 minutes 33 seconds

Meet Ellie Sedgwick The Vulva Photographer

Almost one quarter of people aged 18 to 24 feel anxious or embarrassed about the way their vulva looks. But Ellie Sedgwick is on a mission to change that.

Published: 27 Nov 2024Wed 27 Nov 2024 at 9:00pmwith Dee Salmin

Duration: 31 minutes 13 seconds

Can Age Gap Relationships Work?

Is age just a number? Or does it get icky if the gap is too big?

Published: 25 Nov 2024Mon 25 Nov 2024 at 11:00pmwith Dee Salmin and Pip Rasmussen

Duration: 35 minutes 2 seconds

The Science Behind Dicks n Nutting (aka Sperm, Balls, Erections etc)

Ever wondered what cum is actually made of? Or the science behind an erection? Why do wet dreams happen? What are the chances of pre-cum getting someone pregnant?

Published: 20 Nov 2024Wed 20 Nov 2024 at 9:00pmwith Dee Salmin

Duration: 37 minutes 55 seconds

Gifts, Nudes, Sentimental Stuff: What Can You Keep From An Ex?

Have you kept photos, jewellery, tshirts, presents, sentimental stuff or nudes from your ex? We debate what’s ok or not ok to hold onto after a break up.

Published: 19 Nov 2024Tue 19 Nov 2024 at 5:00amwith Dee Salmin and Pip Rasmussen

Duration: 29 minutes 11 seconds

How To Do A Relationship Check In

Do you struggle with "checking in" with your partner? Maybe you've tried to initiate the convo and they give you nothing back?

Published: 13 Nov 2024Wed 13 Nov 2024 at 9:00pmwith Dee Salmin

Duration: 33 minutes 37 seconds

Are You Doing Relationship Check Ins?

Sometimes it’s a good idea to suss how your partner is feeling about your relationship, reflect on the good and bad, and talk about the future.

Published: 12 Nov 2024Tue 12 Nov 2024 at 4:00amwith Dee Salmin and Pip Rasmussen

Duration: 25 minutes 6 seconds

What To Expect At A Sex Party

If you've ever been curious about sex parties/bathhouse/saunas/events but you're a bit intimidated or don't even know where to start — we find out everything you need to know with sex event curator Paisley Heart. SHOW NOTES: @paisleyheart_

Published: 6 Nov 2024Wed 6 Nov 2024 at 9:00pmwith Dee Salmin

Duration: 39 minutes 59 seconds

How Long Should Sex Last?

Are you having quickies or spending hours having sex? And is there a perfect sweet spot for how long the sesh should last? SHOW NOTES: The Conversation study on average length of sex

Published: 4 Nov 2024Mon 4 Nov 2024 at 11:00pmwith Dee Salmin and Pip Rasmussen

Duration: 23 minutes 21 seconds

Articles

How To 69, According To A Sex Expert

69… it's the sex position people either love or hate. It's hot, it's vulnerable, it's dinner for two and there's a lot going on all at once. So is it worth trying?

two bodies one on top of the other head in between legs - representing the sex position 69

Published: 25 Sep 2024Wed 25 Sep 2024 at 1:02amby Dee Salmin

We debunked all the cooked TikTok advice on vagina hygiene

There’s a lot of wild claims on TikTok claiming how you should take care of yourself down there - sprays, wipes, tablets, and juices. We debunk the bullshit and get the facts on what actually works.

Published: 15 Aug 2024Thu 15 Aug 2024 at 2:02amby Pip Rasmussen

What is sexual chemistry and can it be built with a lover?

You might describe sexual chemistry as a spark you can't explain, but we investigate if it's pheromones, banter, or an intellectual/emotional connection. And if that spark just isn't there, whether it's worth sticking around.

two hands reaching up to the sky touching each other with a light shining through behind them

Published: 23 Jul 2024Tue 23 Jul 2024 at 6:31amby Dee Salmin

What’s the ‘boy/girl sober’ movement on TikTok?

The TikTok trend of going 'boy sober' and 'girl sober' has people deleting the apps, finding themselves and going celibate. Here's why.

a tiktok of a girl with brown short hair with text "I'm going boy sober for a year"

Published: 4 Jun 2024Tue 4 Jun 2024 at 12:44amby Dee Salmin

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